Communication & playfulness
Do you want to communicate about more than just the functional stuff? - get back to enjoying chat about music, friends, travel, life itself?
Do you have rows more than you'd like? Are these arguments explosive on occasion - or more a background grumble, sniping at each other?
Do you sometimes feel you'e being scolded by your partner - as if they were the parent and you were the child? Do you catch yourself telling your partner off?
These behaviours are really common in a couple. it is less common to scold or be scolded by a friend, family member or colleague
Something about the particular emotional needs of the couple, which are different to other relationships, may explain this phenomenon.
You may feel the repetitious nature of much of this is frustrating: as if you are locked in a dance you can't escape.
You may also realize many of the arguments are about 'silly' things that normally wouldn't matter.
If you can understand the hidden meaning of these kinds of arguments, you have the key to change.
I will work with you, to show you:
– how to get back to fun, rather than merely transactional conversations
– how to understand and prevent scolding and telling-off
– how to understand and deal with anger
– how to listen, and feel heard
– how to stop blaming each other
All couples will disagree at times; but you can express yourself without anger, and without the negative parent-child exchanges.