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"I hate being told what to do." We hear this often. A problem with authority can present as a healthy desire for autonomy ...
When couples tell me their arguments are getting more frequent and harder to resolve, the first thing I often say surprises them ...
Attachment theory has become part of everyday language. Scroll through social media and you'll find quizzes identifying ...
Compulsive porn use is increasingly common, and increasingly misunderstood. When people search for ...
Desire discrepancy — where one partner wants sex more than the other — is one of the most common issues couples bring to ...
For Anna Freud and the ego-psychology movement that came to dominate American psychoanalysis through the mid-twentieth ...
Erectile dysfunction is one of the most commonly presented sexual difficulties in therapy, and one of the most commonly ...
Trauma comes to seem as if it is "stored" in the body when something has happened that could not be brought into words at ...
Freud's answer to this question is deliberately deflating. The aim of psychoanalytic treatment, he said, is to ...
The "you complete me" fantasy sounds romantic. It is also, thankfully, impossible — and if it weren't, it would be terrifying.
There is a model of sex that speaks of a mystical union — two bodies made one, a co-created erotic experience in which ...
The conventional explanation for why desire fades in long-term relationships is familiarity. But this is a curiously weak account ...
Alcohol can become a libidinal investment in the fullest sense — not merely a habit, but an organised source of pleasure ...
It is tempting to imagine that a baby enters language when it learns to speak. But this gets the sequence wrong ...