In attachment theory, the usual contrast is between an anxious subject who wants closeness and an avoidant subject who fears it. From a more structural perspective, anxious and avoidant attachment are not opposites but two defensive solutions to the same anxiety: the anxiety of being caught in the Other’s desire (parent, partner, society) without knowing how to locate oneself within it. The anxious position keeps this question open and unresolved, remaining hyper-attuned to signs of proximity or withdrawal, while the avoidant position attempts to pre-empt it by defending against intimacy itself. In both cases, the problem is not closeness versus distance, but the anxiety provoked by uncertainty about one’s place in the Other’s desire.